Countless missed opportunities have shown me 2 things; I’ve realized that not all money is good money, and that my move (while it may not be the most advantageous move) is the best move.
Going with your move gives you confidence in your decision-making capabilities. Much like how, when you go with someone else’s you gain confidence in their decisions.
We don’t need confidence in other people. What we need is confidence in ourselves and our abilities. With that, I want to say that we already have all the answers.
We know what is wrong in our lives.
We know what it is that’s causing us to have unfulfilling lives. We know what needs to change, we just don’t want to change it.
Why is this? Why is it that we see what’s causing all the turmoil in our lives, but we won’t go out and do something about it? I don’t think that it’s because we’re stupid. I don’t think that it’s because we lack any sense of self-control.
I dare to say that it’s because of our inability to see the difference between the emotional and rational halves of a decision. Most are aware of the problems in their lives; we just don’t want to do anything about it because of the belief that the good of the situation far outweighs the bad.
Or that we must be “loyal”(Something that I believe is bs, and I stand on that).
To change something, you must gain some control
We can’t separate the emotional and rational halves of our decisions. We want to have the good but don’t want any of the bad.
To that, I say good luck. We don’t have emotional control and that spills over into many of the decisions that we make in our daily lives.
Take this silly example for instance:
When I was younger I loved candy (I honestly still do). I spent every single last one of my dollars on the stuff with no regards for what I would need in the future in terms of finances.
Well, one day, I distinctly remember having a choice between either paying for a field trip (a mandatory one at that) or buying 2 dollars’ worth of candy. Keep in mind that the field trip itself was 10 dollars and I had exactly that.
Me buying the candy would’ve made me 2 dollars short. Long story short I bought the candy. Why? Because I loved candy.
I had no control over my emotional and physical desire for the candy and that translated into an unwise decision being made. (my distaste for money only helped me make this decision)
Even though I knew that it wasn’t a “good” decision, I still did it.
If you don’t want it, all the advice in the world won’t help
If someone were to tell me to pay for that field trip I probably would’ve done it(probably). I really wanted that candy and there’s a very good chance that I simply would’ve found a way to justify the purchase of it. I didn’t have any self-control.
This leads me to my point. If you don’t have it in your mind that you want to do something, then you will always find a way to get out of doing it. What you do will have to be of someone else’s accord.
Basically, we must gain a bit of self-control and a level of awareness that allows us to see our situations for what they are.
We must TRY and be rational (operative word is try).
Believe it or not, you already know the answers. This isn’t true in all situations, but in the situations that you are already knowledgeable about, you know them for sure.
You know how to get to certain places. You know what you’re doing wrong. You know what you need to change.
We don’t need “help”. We need control, with a bit of confidence on the side. You don’t need guru’s, at least not with your own life.
We don’t need all of these things that we’ve been tricked into being dependent on. We need to be aware.