Friends are fine
I’ve never been a big “friend” person. That’s just me, I usually prefer solitude.
That isn’t to say that I don’t like people, it’s just that the way that I behave doesn’t really allow for much interaction with others. From what I’ve noticed, most people aren’t like this.
Everywhere I look, I see people in bunches interacting with one another, laughing. There’s nothing wrong with this either. I believe that it is safe to say that people just like people.
Now, I’ve mentioned in my last post, that we our minds our very, malleable. Our “weak brains” open us up to influence by outsiders, or in other words, the people we associate with.
Look at your Self
As mentioned earlier, friends ARE NOT bad, depending on the influence that they have on you.
Your friends will influence you, regardless of whether you let them or not. To understand the type of influence that your friends have on you, simply look at your life.
Compare your Self from before meeting your friends to the Self that you are now. Are there any differences that didn’t come about through a life experience?
Do you guys mimic one another behavior-wise? My point is this; We are a direct product of who we surround ourselves by.
Don’t believe me? Go find some new friends and give it a few months. I’m willing to bet that you see changes in your behavior.
How do you know if they are having a negative
Are you doing things that you otherwise wouldn’t have been if you didn’t have these friends? More importantly, are these things detrimental to either your well-being or future?
If so, these people that you call your “friends” are doing more harm than good. This can come in the form of many things. Speaking for myself, I found that when I surrounded myself with people who didn’t share the “vision” or drive that I have, I simply fell.
I no longer followed the routine that I had been busy making for myself for years. I simply let my life slowly, fall apart. I say this to make it evident to you, the effects of bad friendships.
What should you do
This is something that I knew, and I’m sure that all of you know. Cut them off. It’s as simple as that.
If you want something for yourself that, your acquaintances, simply aren’t and can’t strive for, stop hanging out with them.
Their utter lack of drive can and will rub off on you, having a direct effect on your ability to get anything done for yourself.
Should you feel bad
No. Although loyalty and perseverance are given praise when it comes to friendships, the hard truth is that you only get one life.
Friends are fun but, you want to make sure that you surround yourself with people who are going to aid you in your journey towards reaching your goals; it doesn’t have to be monetary, it can be as simple as having people around you who have a drive that matches yours.
This may sound harsh, but it’s true. You don’t have to apologize, feel bad, or anything else of the sort. It’s your life and, it can and will be wasted if you surround yourself with people with people who don’t “fit” mentally.
What to do afterwards
It’s as simple as that. Ridding yourself of “bad” friends doesn’t mean that you no longer have to have any.
It just means that you need to be more selective in the process of finding them. That’ just how it works; like anything, you have to critique until you find what works. And then critique some more.
It’s good to have friends, in fact it’s encouraged. But, remember that we, as human beings are extremely impressionable.
Consider yourself in a constant state of adolescence, never fully having control of your mind or behavior. Friend, or simply the people who you are around on a regular basis, have a direct effect on your outlook on life, and actions.
Before you find yourself in a place that you may not want to be in, evaluate your life.
Look at the people you surround yourself with and ask yourself, “Do I see myself achieving my life goals while being surrounded by these people constantly?”If your answer was no, you know what to do.
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